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Family Photos

I just read Jonathan’s
Blog
entry on “My Family Photos – and ODF” and was reminded
of the months of work it took to prepare the family photo video
we made for my father’s 80th birthday last year. After reviewing
thousands of pictures, I picked 586 to include in the final version.
We made DVD copies for family members (and uploaded them to a
photo storage web site) so at least those photos exist
in more than one location but most of the images have never been
copied and are stored in plastic boxes in my basement.

We called the 2006 video “80 Years of Innovation & Entrepreneurship:
Wade Dickinson”. Some of the photos are of historical importance
(like the 3 we have from the one room schoolhouse he attended
in Hickory Township, Pennsylvania, or the hand colored portrait
of him as a West Point graduate) but most are of interest only
to relations:

Wade in 1929:

Wade Dickinson 1929,
photo: copyright 2006 Katy Dickinson
One Room Schoolhouse 1931:

Wade Dickinson at the One Room Schoolhouse 1931,
photo: copyright 2006 Katy Dickinson
Car Fans 1942:

Wade Dickinson 1942,
photo: copyright 2006 Katy Dickinson
Wade at West Point 1947:

Wade Dickinson West Point 1947,
photo: copyright 2006 Katy Dickinson
Our Family in 1964:

Wade Dickinson and Family 1964,
photo: copyright 2006 Katy Dickinson
Wade in 1972:

Wade Dickinson 1972,
photo: copyright 2006 Katy Dickinson


Images Copyright 2006, Katy Dickinson

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Athletics and Disabilities

Today starts my son’s 2nd week participating in track and field as a Freshman in High School. Since Paul has a rich variety of learning disabilities
(social/cognitive, dyslexia, dysgraphia, etc.), sports is one of his hardest school subjects. Paul’s disabilities aren’t visible – he is a tall, hefty, and smart – which causes problems when he does not respond as expected. He went out for track and field because one of the coaches is also his Math teacher. They get along well and Math is Paul’s best subject. We hope that having a coach who already understands Paul will help him stay with running.

Paul was on the wrestling team in 8th grade last year. His team mates wrestled to win but Paul wrestled to learn how to be on a regular sports team. He set himself goals for his matches like: 1) don’t quit, 2) don’t bleed. Paul’s approach has much in common with the Athlete Oath for the Special Olympics:

    Let me win. But if I cannot win,
    let me be brave in the attempt.

It has been raining hard all afternoon but the coach told Paul last week that “Neither rain, nor sleet, nor snow, nor hail…”* will stop training runs. I just talked to Paul on the phone and he said he was “wet, wet, wet, wet, wet,” after running for hours in the rain. But he stuck it out!

* motto used by the U.S. postal service, adapted from Herodotus

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Wrestling and Gender

Since my daughter Jessica won the match in her last duel meet, she
went on to wrestle in the Varsity League Finals tournament last
Saturday. She lost her matches there so regretfully she will not be going
on to the next level of competition
(CCS Championships).

Jessica was one of three girls wrestling at Saturday’s tournament (all from
different schools). One
of the three (weighing 103 pounds) is going to CCS. The girls
all wrestled boys in the regular matches but Jessica and Rihanna (both in
the 125 pound class) wrestled each other at the end just for fun. They
had been in tournaments together several times but never matched with each
other. Rihanna won but it was a good match for both.

Wrestling is perhaps the only sport that sorts contenders only by weight,
not by gender. All of the tournament’s schools offer mixed gender wrestling teams
except one, a parochial school that only allows boys on the team. One of
the girls was told last week by coaches from the parochial
school that it was immoral for boys to wrestle girls unless they were
engaged to be married. Nonetheless, that same parochial school sent one of
their boys up against Rihanna on Saturday and he is going to CCS because he
won the match. The girls were disgusted with the sanctimonious
and duplicitous behaviour of the school’s coaches.

Part of the fun in being a spectator at a wrestling tournament is watching
the variety of contenders. The weight classes go from around 100 pounds
to well over 200 pounds. On Saturday, we saw every color skin, from cherry petal
pink to milk chocolate brown. We also heard names originating from all over the
world announced for matches. Some of the names on our daughter’s team
and at Saturday’s tournament: Goodman, Lao, Schwartz,
Mui, Hoffman, Olila, Davis, Spitters, Rao, Campbell, Peterson, Wang, Nguyen,
Taylor, Singh, Ramirez, Lozano, Kahn, Gold, Reed, Lee, Kwan, Park,
and Kowano.

Also fun are the t-shirt designs and slogans worn at tournaments. Most teams
have new wrestling shirts each year but wearing old shirts is encouraged.
Our former priest (Rev. Kathy McAdams) passed on her wrestling t-shirts to
Jessica just to keep them in current use. Some of the slogans we saw
at Saturday’s tournament:

  • There is no easy way
  • Catch me if you can
  • Competition is the process, domination is the goal
  • Wrestler Nation
  • Never Give Up
  • We Don’t Take Bull (for the Matadors team)
  • Cats (for the Los Gatos team)
  • Wresters Score in Every Position
  • DWD – Desperate Wrestling Dad (also Wife of DWD)
  • Combat Training
  • Pain is Temporary, Pride is Forever

Jessica looked at this list and said her all time favorite
wrestling t-shirt said:

    Yeah, I’m a Girl

    Yeah, I Wrestle.

    Yeah, You Lost.

    Deal with it.

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Consent to Overprotection

Someone gave us a subscription to Reader’s Digest for Christmas
and it has become our preferred household bathroom reading. An article
in the current issue is “Dad Overboard – confessions of a (way too)
protective parent” by Steve Doocy. The father writing the amusing article
is concerned that he was too protective raising his young son because the boy
was denied toy guns, swimming without a flotation device, and whole grapes
(a choking hazard).

I know many more parents who are overprotective than parents who
are inattentive. One of the causes of parental fear
and overprotectiveness may be the number of release forms we have to
sign listing the dire risks potentially associated with relatively safe
activies like field trips and school sports.

I was interested to read that in 2005 the Wisconsin Supreme Court
would not enforce an athletic center’s waiver: “…holding the release unenforceable because it was against public policy. The Court cited the following reasons for its decision: 1) the release was overbroad and all-inclusive; 2) the guest’s waiver of liability was insufficiently highlighted; and 3) the guest did not have the opportunity to bargain over the terms of the release. … The Court held that affording the customer the option of either signing the release or not using the facility is not considered a sufficient opportunity to ‘bargain’.”
(quote from
“Atkins v. Swimwest Family Fitness Center, 2005 WI 4: Wisconsin Supreme Court Decision
).

When my kid comes home with a release form I have to sign before she
can participate in a field trip the whole class is attending or
in a PE class, I sure don’t feel I have any right to bargain with the
school about the release terms. Hence, I doubt the forms are enforceable.
However, even parents with excellent English reading comprehension and
doubts about the legal validity of these ubiquitous release forms get
worried signing them. I can only imagine how American consent forms
trouble new immigrant parents.

Here are two examples of the dozen or so release forms I have to
sign each year for each of my kids:


Schoolname Athletics

Assumption of Risk Form


Student Name: _____________________________

In consideration of being allowed to participate in any way in the athletic program, and events and activities, the undersigned hereby agree to the following conditions.

  1. I acknowledge and fully understand the each participant will be engaging in activities which involve risk of injury. The injury could be serious or catastrophic including permanent disability.
  2. I assume all the foregoing risks and accept personal responsibility for damages following such injury, permanent disability, or death. If it is determined that my child needs medical or dental treatment while participating in athletics, I will be financially responsible for any treatment determined to be necessary by a physician, dentist, athletic trainer, emergency medical personnel, or any other medical personnel.
  3. I grant permission for the school’s sports medicine staff to care for and provide appropriate medical treatment for my child in the event of his/her injury.
  4. I Accept and acknowledge schoolname Athletic Code of Conduct.

__________________________________ Date _____________

Parent Guardian Signature

_________________________________ Date _____________

Student Signature


Parent’s Consent To Travel And Attend Field Trips In The State Of
California


This consent is given with reference to the following facts:

    A. The undersigned is/are the father and/or mother of ___________________________________________, a minor child
    who is a resident of the city of _________________________________________________,
    located in _______________________________________________ , __________________________________________.
    County or Province State/Country

    B. Said minor child is to be enrolled in schoolname during the 2007 summer school.

    C. The schoolname is a private school consisting of elementary and secondary grades.

    D. It is understood and agreed between me/us and the agents and employees of schoolname that schoolname will engage in educational activities outside schoolname locations at schooladdress California. More specifically, it is contemplated that the administration,
    teachers and staff of schoolname will conduct field trips to state and national parks, museums, universities, sporting events, plays and other entertainment activities. It is also contemplated that staff may on occasion be called upon to transport a child to an off-campus appointment or activity.

NOW, THEREFORE, I/We give my/our consent to schoolname to engage in the above described activities that the teachers or administration of schoolname feel will promote the education of my child.

FURTHER, I represent as follows:

  1. I/We have legal and physical custody of said minor child and am/are, therefore, competent under the laws of the State of California to sign this agreement.
  2. I/We acknowledge the fact that the staff members may be unable to watch each child at all times on field trips. In addition, I/we realize and specifically acknowledge there always exists the possibility of an unforeseen accident causing harm to my/our minor child.
    Nevertheless, I/we grant permission for my/our minor child to participate in the activities described above.

  3. In addition, I/we hereby release and agree to hold harmless schoolname as well as its agents, servants, employees,
    successors and assigns any and all claims my/our minor child may have against them for injuries and/or damages suffered by my/our minor child and/or his/her property while participating on said trips.

  4. I/We also hereby agree to indemnify and hold harmless schoolname and its agents, servants, employees, successors and assigns from any liability to third persons caused by the activities of my/our minor child while participating
    on said trips.

  5. This agreement is to be interpreted under the laws of the State of California, United States of America.

Signature of parent/guardian

Date


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Wrestling and Dress Up

Today was “formal day” at my daughter’s High School. When we
dropped her off at 7:30 a.m. this morning, Jessica was wearing a
long black velvet gown, white silk neck scarf, and heels. She was
also toting her green wrestling duffelbag since today is the last duel meet
for the wrestling season, probably her last meet ever since so few colleges
offer women’s wrestling. Jessica has very much enjoyed being Captain of the
wrestling team in her Senior year and is feeling sad to have her sport
end after four years. I have been enjoying thinking of the sensation she
is causing about now as she sashays aboard the bus to go to the meet with
her team.

Saturday, Jessica coached her Freshman and Sophomore team members in a
morning meet then sang two songs in a recital at
Le Petit Trianon Theatre
in the afternoon. She very much enjoyed dressing up to be the character
from Elton John & Tim Rice’s Aida singing “My Strongest Suit”:

    Oh now I believe in looking

    Like my time on earth is cooking

    Whether polka dotted

    Striped or even checked

    With some glamour guaranteeing

    Every fiber of my being

    Is displayed to quite remarkable effect


    From your cradle via trousseau

    To your deathbed you’re on view, so

    Never compromise, accept no substitute

    I would rather wear a barrel

    Than conservative apparel

    For my dress has always been

    My strongest suit

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Money Awareness

One of the things we did to get ready for our 18-year-old daughter to go away
to college in September was to get her a checking account with a debit card. I started
auto-depositing her allowance into this account and refusing to give her cash
or to pay for small things as I had before. This has done more than all of our
conversations and references to articles on
The Motley Fool to raise Jessica’s awareness of
how money works.

Yesterday, Jessica was going to a birthday party. She took $30 she had earned babysitting
the night before and went to the book store to buy something for her friend. She
came back upset, with two books and no money left. She had always bought two books for
friends’ birthdays but she was new to paying for them herself. Yesterday, when
she saw how little her money bought, she made the mental connection between work and
goods:

    1 long night of babysitting = $30 = 2 books

I just smiled and did not say a word.

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Strange College Mail

We got two strange letters in the mail this week with regard to my
daughter’s college applications. We still will not know which colleges
have accepted her until 1 April. While we are in the unpleasant wait-and-see
period between sending everything in and hearing back, there are still small
communications with the nine schools considering Jessica.

The first odd letter was from Rice University. Jessica and I visited Houston
18-21 January (last weekend). On Tuesday, 23 January, we received our Rice
campus visit package. It had been mailed on 10 January. Our visit certainly
would have felt friendlier and more directed if we had gotten the package
before we left. I now understand some of the Admissions secretary’s
confusion when we arrived in her office asking basic questions. Oh well.

The second strange letter was from Jessica’s high school: it contained her first
Senior semester grade report. Since these grades are the last that colleges will
see before they make their acceptance decisions, they are important. We
were very surprised to see an “I” for Incomplete instead of the “A” she was told
she had in English. I got to practice deep calming breaths while Jessica worked
with the high school administration to sort out the grades and reinstate her “A”.
All is well now.

I am reminded of a story I heard when I was a Sophomore
at the University of California, Santa Barbara. My undergraduate transfer to U.C.
Berkeley had been accepted at the same time that a dorm-hall friend had been
accepted to U.C. Berkeley’s graduate school in Chemistry. He went to the UCSB
Chemistry department office for his Senior transcript review only to find that a
whole year of upper division Chemistry class credits had been dropped from his
record and replaced with a year of Sociology credits. The department secretary
explained that my friend couldn’t graduate because he hadn’t met the requirements.
He said he would rather commit murder than take one more undergraduate class.
They came to an understanding; his upper division Chemistry class credits were
restored and he was graduated on time with honors.

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