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Getting Ready for the Easter Bunny

We are getting our garden ready for the Easter Bunny. Every year, we
invite the kids of our family and friends for an egg hunt in our back
yard. Right now, my teenagers (who are on Spring Break) are putting in
their two hours each of gardening a day. Since we filled in the
swimming pool and built a rail line for our caboose, we have a new yard
area in which to hunt. Next Saturday afternoon before
we go to church, the Associate Bunny will dye dozens of hard boiled
eggs and stuff dozens of plastic eggs with toys and candies for the
Easter Bunny to hide.

There is a standing ritual to our annual Egg Hunt on Easter Sunday morning:

  • To begin, all hunters gather in the living room where relative
    ages are determined and the Egg Hunt rules are explained. Rule #1
    is always: There are no eggs in the flower beds. Other
    rules have to do with timing and the boundaries in which where
    eggs may be found. All hunters must repeat Rule #1.
    Anyone expressing doubts about the Easter Bunny is excluded from the hunt.
    Only true believers allowed!

  • Every egg hunter has a basket and an advisor. The advisor is a
    small stuffed animal who accompanies them on the hunt. Each child gets to
    pick their basket and advisor (picking goes in order of age, starting
    with the youngest). They get to take their advisor and basket home along
    with any eggs and candy their parents allow.

  • Kids line up at the back door in order of age, youngest at the front.
    Parents are not allowed outside until the teens go since it is
    hard for parents not to offer unfair help and advice. (The advice
    is rarely needed anyway since the little kids always find the most eggs.)

  • Each child gets 2 minutes of hunting before the next child leaves
    the house. There are easy eggs at ground level and harder eggs
    higher up, both in and under things. Eggs have been known to hide
    inside of lemons on the tree and on the dog kennel roof.
    Some eggs are not found for years…

  • In addition to hiding the eggs, the Associate Bunny leaves 2
    poems. Each poem describes in obscure and maddeningly bad verse the
    unreasonably hard to find location of the gold or silver egg. The gold
    and silver eggs are usually found by the teenagers or adults but
    sometimes the littler kids figure out the puzzle first.

After the hunt, everyone eats a potluck brunch. The kids sort their new
treasures and try to convince their parents that they need to bring home
all of the eggs they found, no matter how squashed.

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Suicide Thursday Over – One More College to Go

Yesterday was being referred to by
Jessica and her friends as “Suicide Thursday” or “Ivy Thursday” because so
many of the major U.S. colleges released their admissions decisions then.
My High School Senior daughter has now heard back from
all but one of the nine colleges, universities, and music conservatories
to which she applied for admission as a member of the undergraduate class
of 2011. Jessica is pleased that she was accepted into five excellent
schools and we in her family feel lucky and happy that our girl has only
good options to choose from in the next month. We expect
to hear Rice’s decision by Monday.

Our friend Danek found this good idea with regard to improving the
college admissions process in the article

“Make college admissions a crapshoot
– Top schools are already too selective, so why not draw names from a hat?”
(By Barry Schwartz, Professor of Psychology, Swarthmore College)
March 18, 2007, latimes.com.

    The tragedy of all this selectivity and competition is that it is almost completely pointless. Students trying to get into the best college, and colleges trying to admit the best students, are both on a fool’s errand. They are assuming a level of precision of assessment that is unattainable. …

    There is a simple way to dramatically reduce the pressure and competition that our most talented students now experience. When selective institutions get the students’ applications, the schools can scrutinize them using the same high standards they currently use and decide which of the applicants is good enough to be admitted. Then the names of all the “good enough” students could be placed in a metaphorical hat, with the “winners” drawn at random for admission. Though a high school student will still have to work hard to be “good enough” for Yale, she won’t have to distort her life in the way she would if she had to be the “best.” The only reason left for participating in all those enrichment programs would be interest, not competitive advantage.

When Jessica read Brown’s online rejection letter to me yesterday, it said
that 19,000 students had applied for next year’s Freshman class. You could
make up a complete university (or city) from the 19,000 students who
applied to Brown alone! A
Brown admissions web page
says that last year they rejected 86%
of applicants. Regardless of the quality of their applications, records,
accomplishments and potential, all 19,000 of those students probably
(like my own daughter) spent days if not weeks writing essays, arranging for
recommendation letters and transcripts and paying fees. They then waited
three months for an answer. A lottery makes more sense and would
surely be more humane to the applicants, their parents, and the
admissions staff.

I am reminded
of a description of the U.S. national spelling bee in the book
Complete and Utter Failure – a Celebration of Also-Rans, Runner-Ups,
Never-Weres and Total Flops
by Neil Steinberg (1994: Doubleday):

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    The image of so many students being forced through that funnel, where
    a solitary student emerges at the end, a victor, while the others slink
    off in defeat, drew me to the bee, making it seem a paradigm for so
    much that goes on in organized mass education….

    Not only does just one child out of 9,000,000 win, but the 8,999,999 losers
    lose in a public and humiliating fashion. As will be seen, it would be hard
    to think up a way to make failure in the bee more demeaning, particularly
    at the later stages, short of having a quartet of circus clowns drive
    deficient spellers from the stage with selzer bottles and flappy paddles.

The colleges which are sending out their admissions decisions now
clearly take a great deal of trouble to write kind, hopeful, and supportive
rejection letters as well as gleeful personalized acceptance letters.
The decisions
are given privately on passworded web pages and in paper mail. However,
I suspect that many high schools are like Jessica’s where the Seniors have
been comparing college lists all year. This month, school hallways are
full of Seniors offering congratulations or commiserations to their
classmates as each school announces its decisions.
In the end, all is known.

Here is where we stand so far on Jessica’s admissions:

College Response Music Conservatory Response
Brown

(Providence, RI)
declined
Carnegie Mellon

(Pittsburgh, PA)
accepted CMU-Music declined
Lawrence University

(Appleton, WI)
accepted Lawrence-Music declined
MIT

(Cambridge, MA)
declined
Oberlin College

(Oberlin, OH)
accepted Oberlin Conservatory declined
Princeton University

(Princeton, NJ)
declined
Rice University

(Houston, TX)
due 4/2 Rice-Shepherd School due 4/2
Smith College

(Northhampton, MA)
accepted
University of Rochester

(Rochester, NY)
accepted

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More College Responses – 4 to go

My High School Senior daughter Jessica has been hearing back
from the colleges, universities, and music conservatories to which she
applied last year for admission to the undergraduate class of 2011.
This has been going on since 8 March and will continue until 2 April. We
expect to hear back from Brown and Princeton tomorrow, and from Oberlin
and Rice on Monday.

Waiting is hard. Once we have all of the replies, we get to decide
which schools she should visit for a last look around before deciding.
Jessica’s acceptance decisions back to the schools are due 1 May.

College Response Music Conservatory Response
Brown

(Providence, RI)
due 3/29
Carnegie Mellon

(Pittsburgh, PA)
accepted CMU-Music declined
Lawrence University

(Appleton, WI)
accepted Lawrence-Music declined
MIT

(Cambridge, MA)
declined
Oberlin College

(Oberlin, OH)
due 4/2 Oberlin Conservatory declined
Princeton University

(Princeton, NJ)
due 3/29
Rice University

(Houston, TX)
due 4/2 Rice-Shepherd School due 4/2
Smith College

(Northhampton, MA)
accepted
University of Rochester

(Rochester, NY)
accepted

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Singing Competition – CMEA

Today was a big day for Jessica, my 18-year-old daughter. She checked the web site and was happy to find out that Smith College has accepted her application. We have now heard back from 3 of the 9 colleges to which Jessica applied. (University of Rochester also accepted her, MIT alas said no.) We will hear from the remainder by 2 April. It is a long and difficult wait.

Also, John and Jessica and I just got back from the CMEA (California Association for Music Education) Solo & Ensemble Festival at San Jose State Univ., that is: a musical performance competition. Jessica was the last singer today. She sang an aria in Russian from Nicolai Rimsky-Korsakov’s The Czar’s Bride and was awarded the highest rating of “Superior” along with a Command Performance. The judge said Jessica’s was the only Command Performance he awarded today!

Susan Nace (Harker’s superb music teacher and the director for Cantilena, Harker’s Upper School Women’s Choir) accompanied Jessica on piano. We are very proud of Jessica and continue to be delighted with the excellent music education and support provided by Ms. Nace.

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2 College Responses In, 7 to Go

My 18-year-old daughter Jessica has started to hear back from her nine college applications: hooray! She applied for admission to: Brown, Carnegie Mellon (& Music Conservatory), Lawrence (& Conservatory), MIT, Oberlin (& Conservatory), Princeton, Rice, University of Rochester, and Smith. So far, the University of Rochester
has accepted her (with a big scholarship) and MIT has turned her down. We
will hear from the remaining seven by 1 April. It was good to have the
first reponse be an acceptance. The email Jessica sent on 8 March when she
first heard was:

Hey, guess who’s in college!!!!!!!!!! Yay, I’m going to college! Only
another month to figure out which one….

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Gardening and Karel Capek

I have been preparing my garden for me to be away in India for several weeks. We have arranged for a housesitter and our daughter will also check in on our plants and pets (2 dogs, 2 cats, and a bird) but other than “mow-and-blow” upkeep, no actual gardening will be done. I have put down weed cloth and mulch and trimmed and tidied and hope that all is in readiness.

We have about 1/4 acre of yard and garden (including 170 feet of the Guadalupe riverbank) and all the plants and trees have just woken up for Spring. My almond trees are in full bloom, the jessamine vine flowers are just opening, the orange, apricot, and peach are in bud and I have pots and beds of daffodils and narcissus cheerfully nodding in day’s warm breeze. The weeds and stray grass are working to colonize any bare ground; snails and slugs are always with us. My garden is still recovering from the long hard frost we had last month. There are sections of bougainvillea and trumpet vine and bird of paradise which are yellow brown. I am not sure yet whether these hardest-hit plants will sprout green soon or are as dead as they look. By the time we are back, I will know.

Karel Capek is most famous for having introduced and made popular the word robot, which first appeared in his play R.U.R. (Rossum’s Universal Robots) in 1921. However, my favorite Karel Capek work is The Gardener’s Year from 1929. Here is Capek’s description of a dedicated gardener leaving on vacation:

[The amateur gardener] departs, however, with a heavy heart, full of fears and cares for his garden; and he will not go until he has found a friend or relation to whom he entrusts his garden for that time.

“Look here,” he says “there is nothing to be done now in the garden in any case; if you come and look once in three days, that will be quite enough, and if something here and there is not in order, you must write me a card, and I will come. So, I am relying on you then? As I said, five minutes will be enough, just a glance round.”

Then he leaves, having laid his garden upon the heart of an obliging fellow-creature. Next day the fellow-creature receives a letter: “I forgot to tell you that the garden must be watered every day, the best times for doing it are five in the morning and towards seven in the evening. It is practically nothing, you only fasten the hose to the hydrant and water for a few moments. Will you please water the conifers all over as they stand, and thoroughly, and the lawn as well? If you see any weeds, pull them out. That’s all.”

A day after: “It’s frightfully dry, will you give every rhododendron about two buckets of tepid water, and each conifer five buckets, and other trees about two buckets? The perennials, which are now in flower, ought to have a good deal of water — write by post what is in flower. Withered stalks must be cut off! It would be a good thing if you loosened all the beds with a hoe; the soil breathes much better then. If there are plant-lice on the roses, buy tobacco extract, and syringe them with it while the dew is on, or after a rain. Nothing else need be done at present.”

The sixth day: “I am sending you by express post a box of plants from the country…. They must go into the ground at once…. At night you ought to go into the garden with a lamp and destroy snails. It would be good to weed the paths. I hope that looking after my garden doesn’t take up much of your time, and that you are enjoying it.”

In the meantime the obliging fellow-creature, conscious of his responsibilities, waters, mows, tills, weeds, and wanders round with the box of seedlings looking where the devil he can plant them; he sweats, and is muddied all over; he notices with horror that here some damned plant is fading, and there some stalks are broken, and that the lawn has become rusty, and that the whole garden is somehow looking blasted, and he curses the moment when he took upon himself this burden, and he prays to Heaven for autumn to come.

And in the meantime the owner of the garden thinks with uneasiness of his flowers and lawns, sleeps badly, curses because the obliging fellow-creature is not sending him reports every day on the state of the garden, and he counts the days to his return, posting every other day a box of plants from the country and a letter with a dozen urgent commands. Finally he returns; still with the baggage in his hands he rushes into his garden and looks round with damp eyes —
“That laggard, that dolt, that pig,” he thinks bitterly, “he has made a mess of my garden!”
“Thank you”, he says dryly to his fellow-creature, and like a living reproach he snatches the hose to water the neglected garden. (That idiot, he thinks in the bottom of his heart, to trust him with anything! Never in my life will I be such a fool and an ass to go away for the holidays!)

While I am in the Garden City of Bangalore, I know I will enjoy being where I am (and not behave like Capek’s gardener!). I will visit the Lal Bagh Botanical Gardens and maybe bring back new gardening ideas.

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Interviewing for College at Starbuck’s

My daughter Jessica is now in the last half of her Senior year in High School.  All of nine college applications are in. She just finished her final vocal audition last week and recently participated in two of the final three alumni interviews. She is still trying to arrange a time for that last interview.

Except for those at the university admissions offices, I think all of Jessica’s interviews have been held at Starbuck’s coffee shops. A friend of ours who does alumni interviews for his alma mater says that Starbuck’s is sufficiently public that both the interviewer and candidate feel safe; also, there are lots of Starbuck’s shops around and they are usually easy to find. (I am currently re-reading Moby Dick in which the moral but pliable first mate is named Starbuck. The coffee shop chain is named for him.)

We are still getting letters from schools saying they are missing information already sent. For one school, she sent in her musical profile three times before they acknowledged getting it. I suspect that some schools are not as organized as they require their applicants to be.

We will be happy to be done with waiting to hear back. All of the schools are supposed to give Jessica their acceptance or denial letters by 1 April. One interviewer told her they would say by 15 March. Another school asked her to apply for a binding early admission (she declined). A third college had a professor write her a personal letter about his new program. I think all of this communication means that at least some of Jessica’s applications are well regarded. But I would still like to know for sure. I hate waiting.

We are sending in our 10th week summer Blue Camp Bear’s Lair reservations without knowing whether Jessica will be able to go or if we will have to cut our camping short to move her into a dorm.

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