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July 4th Wedding Anniversary

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John and I were married on 4 July 2000. The 4th of July is a great day to get married. Caterers are available (since most people are home making their own BBQ) and there are always American Independence Day fireworks to celebrate.

When we got married, John and I each had a home with too much stuff already.  What we needed was time to enjoy our family and friends and our big event. So, we outsourced. We asked close friends each to take on a big task (the dress, the cake, flowers, music, wine, catering, whatever) instead of giving a gift. We paid for everything and promised not to micromanage. We are blessed in having organized friends, so everything went perfectly. For guests who needed to give us something, we collected money for shares in a very comfortable Morris chair – that they can come and sit in when they visit. We got married in our own San Jose backyard and we had a wonderful time!

John and I donated the altar flowers today at St. Andrew’s Episcopal Church in Saratoga, CA to celebrate our 12th wedding anniversary.

Today at church:

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Our family in 2000:
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Grandma Jones

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This is one in my occasional series of profiles of people worth remembering. Grandma Jones was our nanny – and one of the most important people in my life. My daughter Jessica is named in her honor. Grandma Jones took care of my two brothers and me every week day when our parents were working or busy. Jessie Dale Reed Jones was born in 1891 and died in 1983. She was the widow of U.S. Army Captain Ernest Thomas Jones, who died in San Francisco in 1941 (just as the U.S. was entering World War II). She is buried in the Golden Gate National Cemetery (SECTION K, SITE 2765-A).

Grandma Jones came to work for our family after my older brother Mark was born in 1955. My mother said Grandma Jones tapped on the window of their flat on Cervantes Boulevard in San Francisco’s Marina district. She said she heard a baby crying and that if my mother wanted a babysitter to please call. Grandma Jones took care of us from before my birth until I was in High School. I remember that she used to sit at our table and drink coffee with milk and smoke a cigarette after my mother got home in the afternoon.  Sometimes she shared an afternoon drink with my mother.

My mother said that Grandma Jones talked about being stationed in China before World War II, and about Dwight Eisenhower whom she knew when he was a young officer in Georgia. Grandma Jones described Eisenhower as being jovial, even bouncy, but that he wore his cap too far back on his head. Even twenty years after her beloved husband’s death, I remember her talking about her Ernest. My mother said that Grandma Jones regularly visited his grave in the Presidio in San Francisco.

Every day I would walk home from school to find her making my snack – an egg salad sandwich with a bowl of cream of mushroom soup. (The first time I ordered an egg salad sandwich in a restaurant, I was very surprised that it was served cold. When Grandma Jones made it, the egg was still warm from the boiling water.)

Even though Grandma Jones had family in Roanoke, Virginia, she was independent and wanted to live alone in San Francisco. She had friends on the Presidio Army base but was a little bored. Taking care of our family filled her days. I was her special favorite and thrived on her devotion.  Every Christmas, we would dress in our best and Grandma Jones would take my brothers and me to the Emporium department store on Market Street downtown. We admired the decorated shop windows and the Emporium’s great dome.  We had lunch in the store, talked to Santa, and could pick out anything we wanted for a present, so long as it cost less than $5. I remember my great excitement at a day out with Grandma Jones, a restaurant lunch, getting to use the family bathroom stall (for which she paid extra), and picking out my own present.

Grandma Jones finally moved to live with her family in Roanoke toward the end of her long life.  She died peacefully in her sleep at the age of 92 after suffering a stroke.  Recently, when sorting through older art by my mother, we found a painting that may be of Grandma Jones.  We have added it to our family portrait collection in the dining room.

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Chinese Hot Pot

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Growing up in San Francisco, I started using chopsticks soon after learning to use a fork. Sunday family dinners were usually in Chinatown at Yet Wah, a restaurant near the children’s playground at Portsmouth Square.

Since starting to work for Huawei two years ago, I have been introduced to different kinds Chinese cooking, particularly hot pot. My husband John is very adventurous about food so he tried it first with coworkers before convincing the whole family to experiment.  Knowing what ingredients to order can be a challenge but it is fun to cook together in a big pot in the middle of the dinner table. We have eaten at several places, including Hot Pot City in Milpitas, and Little Sheep Mongolian Hot Pot in Santa Clara, CA. I like Little Sheep best because of the quality of their broth – especially after everything else has been eaten and noodles are added for the last course.

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Paul’s Dragon

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My son Paul is finishing his second year at Foothill College. His major art project has been a very large ceramic dragon, complete with orb and egg. The mythic winged beast is not yet done (he is still working on glazes) but I was able to take pictures of parts of it that came home for safety during the summer quarter.

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Silicon Valley Cactus Flowers

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The Silicon Valley is more famous for computers and high technology than for cactus.  Nonetheless, the high dry summer heat makes where I live to the south of San Francisco wonderful for dessert gardening. My cactus are far too generous in sharing their spines (particularly the soft looking Bunny Ears  – Opuntia microdasys – that sheds hundreds of tiny spines at the lightest touch) but their elegant shapes and lovely summer flowers make up for puncture wounds all year. The short-lived feathery flowers are as delicate as the surrounding spines are nasty.  Today, my garden on the Guadalupe River features cactus blooms measuring 1/2 inch (on Bunny Ears) to 4 inches (on the giant Prickly Pear). This is a good year because my Electrode Cactus (Ferocactus histrix) is blooming for the first time since I planted it in 1998.

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J.R. Biche – Film Graduate

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I met J.R. Biche when he was about six, the son of my dear friend Laura. Last week, J.R. was graduated by The Art Institute of California – San Francisco with a Bachelor of Science college degree in Digital Film and Video Production. I am very proud of this talented young man! At J.R.’s graduation party, he showed two of this short films – all of which can be seen on the Lord Enigmus Youtube site. I particularly enjoyed watching J.R.’s senior project: “The Challenge”. I look forward to watching J.R. grow into his interesting new career.

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Driver’s License and Independence

The myth is: California teens want to get their driver’s license as soon as they turn 16.  It’s not that simple. I got my license when I was 22 (living in San Francisco and Berkeley, public transport is good and it is impossible to park, so why bother?).   My son-in-law has a license but neither my 23-year-old daughter nor 19-year-old son have progressed past the permit stage. Like me, my daughter graduated from college without a driver’s license.  In contrast, my husband got his license at age 14-1/2, growing up in Kansas farm country.

Driver’s licenses have been more a passionate subject for discussion with my parents than with my kids.  Before he passed away last year at age 85, my father lost his license after medical tests indicated that he could no longer driver safely.  He was bitterly resentful of this, and we in his family were grateful that the consulting doctor took some of the heat of my father’s anger and frustration. My father saw the license suspension as an assault on his independence.

It is surprisingly difficult to revoke a driver’s license. The California Department of Motor Vehicles (DMV) has many web pages about senior driving safety and complex formal rules about how to evaluate driving competence. Clearly, there are many (unlike my kids) for whom a driver’s license is an essential indication of maturity and freedom.

If you are concerned about someone’s driving and want to request a formal evaluation, what Not To Do:

  • Phoning the DMV gets you into a phone-tree-hell from which nothing results.
  • Informal notes from doctors (even on doctor’s office stationary) get ignored – the DMV only responds to official forms and evaluations.
  • Going in person to the DMV just gets you into long lines – where you eventually are told that the DMV does not perform driver’s tests at the request of concerned family members.

What finally worked: a doctor submitting a signed “Request for Driver Reexamination” form to the DMV.

In considering this blog entry, I found a listing of over 100 songs about cars and driving. For fun, listen to Joan Joffe Hall reading her poem Driver’s License, one of many creative tributes to this complex public document.

Nowadays, I am the happy driver of a tiny Smart Car with a wrap that looks like party streamers. Recently, the kids at SMUM decorated around my car with sidewalk chalk, as if my car design was dripping onto the asphalt – the best kind of graffiti!

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